The only lesson in D&C devoted to the most celebrated and complex relationship we can enter – marriage. What is the relationship between marriage now and union in the eternities? How has it changed over time, and how is it enhanced by additional celestial covenants introduced by Joseph Smith? And what are the guiding principles that would exalt any marriage, whether sealed in the temple or not? How do we make this topic accessible to everyone, recognizing that relationships comes in all shapes, sizes, and statuses? That’s the discussion for today.
Class Member Study Guide:
Material Shared in Class:
- 10 Key Moments in the History of Marriage, BBC
- Timeline of Covenantal Ordinances
– Baptism (1829)
– Priesthood (1830 – 1835)
– Washings + Anointing (1832 school of prophets, Jan 1836 near completion of temple, March 1836 completion of temple, face and feet, 1842 nauvoo endowment)
– Endowment (1836, pentecostal endowment in Kirtland, 1842 nauvoo endowment)
– Celestial Marriage (1843)
- Principles of Happy Marriages
– Spouse becomes pre-eminent:
President Spencer W. Kimball explained: “When the Lord says all thy heart, it allows for no sharing nor dividing nor depriving.The words none else eliminate everyone and everything. The spouse then becomes preeminent in the life of the husband or wife, and neither social life nor occupational life nor political life nor any other interest nor person nor thing shall ever take precedence over the companion spouse. Marriage presupposes total allegiance and total fidelity. Each spouse takes the partner with the understanding that he or she gives totally to the spouse all the heart, strength, loyalty, honor, and affection, with all dignity. Any divergence is sin; any sharing of the heart is transgression. As we should have ‘an eye single to the glory of God,’ so should we have an eye, an ear, a heart single to the marriage and the spouse and family” (Faith Precedes the Miracle , 142–43).- Investing in the other person:
Marjorie Hinckley, to Gordon: “”You have always given me wings to fly, and I have loved you for it” (Hinckley, Oct. 2004, General Conference)
Julie B. Beck, to BYU single women, March 2008 Devotional: When students asked her if they could have careers, she said: ‘Girl, go for broke! … Whatever your dreams are, go for it. … Sometimes you don’t have control over the Lord’s time and plan. … Go for broke, but don’t lose sight of the gospel. When the time comes to marry and have children, re-evaluate.'”
“Dear Tech Support,
Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend to Husband and noticed a distinct slowdown in overall system performance, particularly in the flower and jewelry applications, which operated flawlessly under Boyfriend. In addition, Husband uninstalled many other valuable programs, such as Romance and Personal Attention and then installed undesirable programs such as Rugby, Football, Sailing and Continuous TV. Conversation no longer runs, and Housecleaning simply crashes the system. I’ve tried running Nagging to fix these problems, but to no avail. What can I do? Signed, Desperate”
First keep in mind, Boyfriend is an Entertainment Package, while Husband is an Operating System. Please enter the command: ‘http: I Thought You Loved Me.html’ and try to download Tears. Don’t forget to install the Guilt update. If that application works as designed, Husband should then automatically run the applications Jewelry and Flowers, but remember – overuse of the above application can cause Husband to default to Grumpy Silence, Video Games.app or ESPN.24×7. is a very bad program that will download the Snoring Loudly Beta.
Whatever you do, DO NOT install Mother-in-law (it runs a virus in the background that will eventually seize control of all your system resources). Also, do not attempt to reinstall the Boyfriend program. These are unsupported applications and will crash Husband.
In summary, Husband is a great system, but it does have limited memory and cannot learn new applications quickly. It also tends to work better running one task at a time. You might consider buying additional software to improve memory and performance. We recommend Food and Hot Outfits.
Good Luck, Tech Support”
– Deposits > Withdrawals:
The Parable of the Marriage Box: Most people get married believing a myth that marriage is a beautiful box, full of all the things they have longed for: companionship, intimacy, friendship, etc. The truth is that marriage at the start is an empty box. You must put something in before you can take anything out. There is no “love” in marriage – “love” is in people, and people put love into marriage. There is no “romance” in marriage – you have to infuse it into marriage. A couple must learn the art and form the habit of giving, loving, serving, praising, and keeping the box full. If you take out more than you put in, the box will be empty.”
- The History of Joseph and Emma
- Mormon Sunday School Podcast on Polygamy, with lots of additional resources